This article was originally published JUNE 2016, in the WorldWide Coaching Magazine.
By Lyn Christian MCC, CFCC, CCMBIT COACH
The coaches I hang out with, those I’m drawn to and swap stories with, typically practice a life I’d consider relatively high in consciousness. I use the term “practice” because, for most of us, living at a higher level of consciousness means mindfully working at it day to day.
To strengthen my mindfulness practice, I’ve been playing with two simple sets of exercises. I hope you find them valuable.
Words contain the potential for us to enhance our consciousness. This is often a practice of being mindful of what and how we say things. The more peaceful our words are, the higher our intention is, and the higher the creation of what is spoken can be. Here are a few ways to do just that:
- Walk away from negative conversations.
- Speak all words from love.
- Be conscientious and creative about the words you use (and the ones you listen to).
- Craft your thoughts and words in as loving and nurturing a manger as possible. Let the intention come from acceptance, forgiveness and humor.
- Compliment rather than complain.
- When greeting someone, say things such as: “Isn’t it a lovely day?” or “I’m happy to be alive, how are you?”
- Practice saying what you mean in a way that’s effective and kind.
- Expand your vocabulary so that you can choose words that are accurate, beautiful, inspiring and efficient.
- Compliment others more than you critique them.
Observe rather than absorb energy. We are constantly “tuning in” to our clients, and (unless we are mindfully selective) we can unwittingly tune in to what we don’t want to absorb. When we take on undesirable energy, it is like having our intuitive channel open but the fine tuner can’t get dialed into Higher Self. Without realizing it, we can accidentally subsume negative energy. These are some of the techniques I use to set boundaries, supporting me “to observe and not absorb.”
- Define your aim and intention when you sit down to listen to another person.
- Notice that emotion comes with energy. Listen for and observe the “need” underlying the emotion versus picking up the energy of the emotion.
- Imagine that the world around you is a wonderful movie and learn to enjoy it as you would from the seat in a theatre.
- Cover your solar plexus with a folder, a pillow, or your arms as you listen to your clients.
- Breath-work can help as well. Use your breath to form a gentle bubble of insulation around you as you interact with others. The more slowly you breathe the more grounded and protected we are.
- Turn away from negative energy when you encounter it. Actually turn your body away.
- Pay close attention to the vibe you experience while observing a situation, making sure you’re not taking on anyone else’s energy.
- When and if you feel invaded by another person’s energy, stop! Stop whatever you are doing and name every item within your sight. Say what you see. Do this out loud if necessary. Continue this activity for three to four minutes until you’re completely, emotionally neutral.
- See if you can tune in and predict what will come next while watching a film or a TV program. It will sharpen your observational intuition for your next coaching session.
The tools shared in this post were adapted from Sonia Choquette’s book, Trust Your Vibes: Secret Tools for Six-Sensory Living. I highly recommend her work and this book as a means to increase one’s intuitive capacity and raise your sense of higher consciousness on a daily, practical basis.