The most reliable path toward becoming a better coach and a better person is tending to one’s own personal evolution. Because professional coaches are inherently giving and supportive individuals, it’s critical we share our generosity, our caring without sinking into codependency. Sometimes we care too much about the work we do and the client’s we work with, ignoring our own emotional or social state of being.
In truth, many of us could use an emotional checkup from time to time to ensure we sustain healthy connections to self and others; to ensure we aren’t engaging in “helping relationships” that support or enable another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility or under achievement. It’s important to remember we can never deeply and honestly care for others unless our sense of self is strong, our autonomy as individuals is sure-footed and our relationships are sound and supportive.
If you (or those you coach) are a “human magnet” for people who need too much, this set of presentations by psychotherapist and trainer Ross Rosenberg might serve as a tool for maintaining relationships of mutuality and reciprocity. Ross explains how setting boundaries can strengthen our caring, patient, altruistic personality traits and keep us on track.
In this first video, Rosenberg helps elucidate codependency and
gives credible insight into renaming it as Self-Love Deficit Disorder (S.L.D.D.).
“Codependency” No More! Taking the Shame Out of the Name.
Introducing Self-Love Deficit Disorder
Next, this radio interview presents a functional
understanding of S.L.D.D. and what fuels this disorder.
Codependency Addiction / Self-Love Deficit Disorder Addiction
And finally, Ross addresses how to
“free oneself” from codependency and the four stages of recovery
Codependency Recovery Stages