Fighting Battles You Can Win

Here is a simple map to guide you toward Fighting Battles You Can Win. When it comes to being a Badass, to being formidable, we’re often mistaken as to what it takes. The concept is frequently laden with misleading attitudes, which cast Badasses as:

  • Go-Getters and Doers.
  • People who build things.
  • Those who make things happen on their terms.
  • People who don’t wait or hesitate.
  • Those who take control and get shit accomplished.

When the judgments above drive our ambitions, we eventually learn the hard way that our sense of control and domination are illusions. Inevitably, there are things that are beyond our power.

A clear Badass vision requires you to:

  • Stop fretting about controlling everything, only focus on what you can control.
  • Stop worrying about the possibility of encountering problems. Start accepting problems and misfires as part of life. Badasses work their way through the controllable items one at a time.
  • In uncontrollable situations, you can still take productive steps—even if said step is merely acceptance.
  • Instead of worry, imagine what the best possible outcome can be. What is best for the Badass is often what materializes, especially when you don’t force what the end game has to be.

Indeed, the biggest battle to overcome is often within our own mind. When we stop and clarify what we can control and then do something about it, we summon wisdom.

The notion of harnessing wisdom and a prudent vision of control is, in fact, not a new concept. Here are three badass examples and one visual formula to illuminate this point:

First, let’s look at the Stoics. These ancient Roman and Greek philosophers predominantly processed thought via a system of logic versus emotion. Stoicism is big on control and small on control freaks. Stoics ask practical questions like: Can I do anything about this? If not, don’t worry or let emotion overrule intelligence.

Second, let’s consider the Twelve Steps program, an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) system designed for recovering addicts. It was crafted as a realistic way for people to gain some control over what previously felt like a life lived out of control. Maybe you’ve heard the classic Serenity Prayer, authored by American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

Third, I’d like to invoke Gene Roddenberry’s iconic character: Mr. Spock. Part Vulcan, part human, he is noted as one of television and film’s most prominent philosophers. Spock is described as having a mind like Sherlock Holmes, and the wit and wisdom of an inspired speaker of proverbs. These two quotes speak for themselves:

“Insufficient facts always invite danger.”

And “ . . . if you eliminate the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth.”

All three sources point to one common denominator—Be smart about where you focus yourself for battle. Here is a simple map to guide you toward this objective:
Fighting A Battle You can Win Downloadable Handout.

Remember, we always have a choice.
Plan, strive for and fight only the battles you can win.